Timely assessment and appropriate praise, so that children develop good habits in the successful experience
Have parents to the child said: “holiday, this holiday season you want to take your writing pen holding posture training, before the start of the I want to check them.”
I am afraid that this requirement is difficult to implement, children often do not live in their own, general requirements for them not to play a role. So parents should be the big plan is divided into many small plan, and in child or lead to complete row in a timely manner with him together with a summary of assessment have done well today, can reward stars; 7 days are little stars, can change 1 big stars and stars; won three big stars, you can get higher rewards, and so on.
In this way, the child will know whether he has made progress every day, and I look forward to the progress of tomorrow.
Beijing has a mother, son of the fifth grade, homework dawdling. Under the guidance of psychology experts, the mother began to take measures to cultivate the habit.
One day, mother to observe how the son in the end is how to write homework. Found his son write homework for an hour to stand up to, to open the refrigerator to see what is good, to turn on the TV is beginning to see animation yet, less than 10 minutes standing a turn two laps, so homework can not linger??
Mother then said to his son, you are a very clever boy, but just to give you a number, an hour you stand up 7 back, is not too much. Look, you’re writing an hour’s work station 3. Son one Leng, the mother is very tolerant, said 3 back to 3. Mother continues to say, if you do not stand up for an hour or more than 3 back, the same day, the night of the cartoon. Son listened to the joy of the. Mom said, first do not be happy, there will be a penalty, if you do not have an hour to write operations more than 3 back, the night of the TV can not see, including cartoons.
Mother and child agreement reached
The result is 5 days down, the son has 3 days to do, write a job one hour stand up no more than 3 back, so happy to see the cartoon. But two days to forget, not to do. One to 6 o’clock, the rest, because not to watch cartoons, how can I beg my mother do not let look.
Real education is self education, the real control is self control, the child is so slowly changed, an idea of an hour can only stand up 3 back, it will slowly control their own, and to see the animation in the evening to motivate themselves.
In this way, after 3 months of training, the child finally developed a good habit of writing homework, or a good habit to replace a bad habit.
I think this mother is a great mother. I from her successful experience, summed up the basic method of customary training – plus or minus, that is to say, to develop good habits with the addition, to correct bad habits with subtraction. You want to let the child develop what kind of good habits, they do everything possible to guide him to the good behavior continue to repeat, repeat the more, good habits more firmly. We can learn from this practice, is to give the child a acceptable process, so that they slowly get rid of bad habits.
Minus the child’s bad habits by hand, like drug addiction. One year, when I went to Amsterdam to visit, I found some shops selling drugs on the street. I wonder how the whole world is in the anti drug, how do you sell drugs?. We are sold to some of the drug, he suddenly quit, we allow them to trace drugs, with a certificate, you can buy a little, so that he can gradually reduce the amount of drug abuse, until quit. This is the law of diminishing.
I think this is very reasonable. Bad habits will and drug addiction almost must decline curve method is used to correct, that is to say, his bad behavior than the original number reduced, you can allow him to base his reward, a little, until success.